Putting the Fun Back into Sex

Even in the best relationship, sex can become dull after a number of years. With a little bit of imagination, you can rekindle the spark.

Be adventurous. Maybe you've never had sex on the kitchen floor or in a secluded spot in the woods; now might be the time to try it. Or try exploring erotic books and films. Even just the feeling of naughtiness you get from checking out an X-rated movie at the local video store might make you feel frisky.

Be sensual. Create an environment for lovemaking that appeals to all five of your senses. Concentrate on the feel of cool sheets against your skin, the beat of a jazz tune, the scent of flowers around the room, the soft focus of candlelight, and the taste of ripe, juicy fruit. Use this heightened sensual awareness when making love to your partner.

Be playful. Leave love notes in your partner's pocket for him or her to find later. Take a bubble bath together — the warm cozy feeling you have when you get out of the tub is a great lead-in to sex. Tickle. Laugh.

Be creative. Expand your sexual repertoire and vary your scripts. For example, if you're used to making love on Saturday night, choose Sunday morning instead. Experiment with new positions and activities. Try sex toys and sexy lingerie if you never have before.

Be romantic. Read poetry to each other under a tree on a hillside. Surprise each other with flowers when it isn't a special occasion. Plan a day when all you do is lie in bed, talk, and be intimate.

The most important tool you have at your disposal is your attitude about sexuality. Armed with good information and a positive outlook, you should be able to enjoy a healthy sex life for many years to come.